Feelings, we have them and felt them, but have we ever sat with them, going to the depth of why they are there, what are they trying to tell us?
I had always wondered why people do the things they do because that is something that was in their control, there must have been a backstory of thoughts that led them to this decision. But feelings are something that is not always in our control, we feel happy because someone remembered a small detail about our life, and we feel frustrated when someone doesn't understand what we are saying. Now these feelings of happiness and frustration are emotions, and even though how we react to them is in our control, those feelings and what they make us feel at times are not entirely in our control.
I wonder how people deal with their emotions, do they sit with their feelings, analyse them, ask themselves why they are feeling this way, and get to the root of it? or do they ignore them, don't allow themselves to fully let those feelings in, try to keep them silent, try to forget them, keeping it deep down so nobody, not even themselves knows they are feeling that way? or sometimes they are not even aware that they are feeling this way? Or are they aware, and they sit with those emotions until they pass? Or do they use all of these ways in different kinds of situations? AHHHHH!!
This question of how people deal with their emotions and how did they learn to deal with it this way is my Roman Empire. Did someone teach them how to deal with emotions, like a friend giving them a piece of wise advice about it, or a parent sat with them, supporting them through it all? Or do they see their emotions as a question that needs an answer? Or did no one ever teach them how to deal with their emotions, so they spent their life seeing those emotions as war? Or did they learn it all by themselves through life, teaching themselves how to get through it? And how do they handle those big, complex, and heavy emotions? Do they even deal with them or do they just sit with them treating those feelings like a wave in the ocean of emotions? God am losing my mind and the point.
God! My list of questions is endless. So I ask you for answers, what do feelings and your emotions mean to you? How do you deal with them and who taught you to deal with them this way? and does this way of dealing with your emotions serve you right? & lastly, are you alright?
Disclaimer: These might be some heavy questions, I might not make sense in some of the questions here, and as the question here is quite open, the answer might vary from situation to situation, reading this might have made you lose your mind, and am sorry about that! But do try to answer these questions if you can, I would love to hear what you have to say regarding this. Thank you!!
This is my answer to my questions, starting from the top my emotions and feelings mean the most to me, they are my top priority. I have put them in trunk of the car, while I let someone else on driving seat many times in my life, but now I am learning to put them in passenger seat, while I drive my life, keeping those feelings and emotions in the right place, giving them a place to be there, because for me they are an important part of the journey I AM leading.
ReplyDeleteFor me, emotions and feelings are reactions to how the world behaves around me. They travel with me on a rollercoaster ride evey other day. However, the most important thing is to drive throughout the way relying on my own than anyone else. Lately, I always have been dealing with these emotions calmly by not letting them dominate my life. Though, it is a life long journey to learn about how to deal with them, and letting them serve you in a better way.
ReplyDeleteEmotions are our deepest truths, revealing the complex interplay between heart and mind.
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